It was narrated from Jaabir that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in his Farewell Sermon:Respect your Wife especially during Intimacy
""Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner” (Narrated by Muslim, 1218)
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Hind bint "Utbah – the wife of Abu Sufyaan – who had complained that he did not spend on her: “Take what is sufficient for you and your children, on a reasonable basis."
It was narrated that "Aaishah said: “Hind bint "Utbah, the wife of Abu Sufyaan, entered upon the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, "O Messenger of Allaah, Abu Sufyaan is a stingy man who does not spend enough on me and my children, except for what I take from his wealth without his knowledge. Is there any sin on me for doing that?" The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, "Take from his wealth on a reasonable basis, only what is sufficient for you and your children." (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5049; Muslim, 1714)
Muslim men should fear Allah regarding how they handle their wives during intimacy. Please consider the following ahadith for explaination:Appreciate the work your wife does at home
Narrated Jabir Bin Abdullah [may Allah be pleased with him], "The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him ) did not allow sexual intercourse before fondling (the wife)." [Abu Dawood]
Imam al-Daylami [may Allah be merciful on him] records a narration on the authority of Anas ibn Malik [may Allah be pleased with him] that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him ) is reported to have said: "One of you should not fulfill one's (sexual) need from one's wife like an animal, rather there should be, between them, foreplay of kissing and words."
[Musnad Al-FirdawsofAl-Daylami, 2/55]
The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him ) did his personal chores himself, and we do not know of anyahadithin which his wives were known to serve him elaborately. Therefore, the good Muslim husband truly appreciates the work his wife does around the house and understands that it is not her duty to serve him and do his chores.Try to find Good Qualilties in your wife
Men often find non-likable traits about their wives. Please consider the following where Allah says in the Qur'an:Be Kind to your wife
"..and treat them (i.e. your wives) kindly; then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it." [Qur'an- 4: 19]
Narrated Abu Hurairah [may Allah be pleased with him], Allah's Messanger (peace be upon him) said:
"Woman was created from a bent rib. If you want to enjoy her, you enjoy her while she is still bent. If you will try to straighten her, you will break her."
[Sahih Al-Bukhari,Sahih Muslim]
It says in the Quran “And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable” [al-Baqarah 2:228]Looking at other women
It was also narrated from Ibn "Abbaas – that this means: they have the right to good companionship and kind and reasonable treatment from their husbands just as they are obliged to obey the commands of their husbands.
Jareer ibn "Abdullah said: "I asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him ) about an accidental glance at a woman. He commanded me to turn my gaze away." [Al-Tirmidhi]. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him ) said: "O Ali [his cousin], do not follow a glance with another, for you will be forgiven for the first, but not for the second." [Al-Tirmidhi: 2701]Make sure your wife is fulfilling her religious obligations
A wife's secular and religious education is a good Muslim husband"s responsibility.� He should make sure that his wife gains knowledge of the Qur'an an d fulfils her obligations of Islam. She should be trained in implementing the essential principles of Islamic character-building in the upbringing of her children.